Which Grandparent Holds the Baby First?

It’s a common question that couples debate: Which grandparent should hold the baby first? Optimistic expectations vs. safety concerns. It may even be an issue of determining who the baby will go to first. Hopefully, these tips will help you make the right choice. We’ve answered a few of the most common questions and given advice on how to decide. In the end, you’ll be glad you asked.

Maternal grandparents

As the new parents, you want your grandparents to be among the first to hold your newborn. However, you have to wait for the right moment. First, make sure the baby is in the right mood and you have plenty of time to hold the newborn. Then, be ready to wait for two months and 14 days before they can come to your home. Then, get two vaccinations: the Tdap booster shot and the flu vaccine. After this, your grandparents are safe to visit.

Both grandparents

If you are the grandparent of a new baby, you may be asked to visit the newborn as soon as possible. You may even be contacted before the baby is born to make sure that both parents are present and able to meet the child. In any case, you should respect your own feelings and those of the child. While it is natural to feel a bit awkward around a newborn, it is a good idea to avoid hogging the baby.

Optimistic expectations

In a 1992 study, researchers found that women were overoptimistic about having a baby. The researchers were unable to determine whether optimism was helpful or not, but they did find that even a small level of overoptimism led to measurable problems, including less satisfaction with their relationship with their children and a decreased sense of efficacy. However, the researchers did acknowledge that they were not able to test this effect in a large number of women.

Safety concerns

When it comes to babysitting, there are a few things a grandparent should know before holding their grandson or granddaughter. First of all, the baby should wait at least two months to be touched by a grandparent. Second, a grandparent should wait fourteen days before contacting the newborn without a doctor’s appointment. Third, grandparents should receive two vaccinations – the flu vaccine and Tdap booster.

Managing expectations

It is imperative to be considerate when sharing expectations with your child’s parents. Parents may not want you to hold the baby, or might have certain requests, such as that you wash your hands before holding the child. If you have children, your boundaries may be stricter – COVID-19 may make this more difficult. The key is to align your expectations with the parents’, and be sure to communicate them in a way that demonstrates that you value the needs of the child and respect their expectations.